This Is Not A Story About Forgiveness

When I first saw this this tweet "God forgives, I don't" it got me offended because of the word "God" because I am grounded in my faith, but when I gave this some thought it actually shocked me very much because I don't believe in forgiveness.

When someone says you need to forgive someone that has hurt you, I just think that its easier to tell someone that but harder to do, how do you forgive someone that has murdered your family??? you telling everyone to forgive, would you forgive someone that has Taken someone very important in your life away?

Forgiveness takes time, it is not something that needs to be rushed and everyone is different, you may forgive someone and then the next day the same person that you forgave will boast that they're are forgiven. i don't know if its just me but i believe that Forgiveness is for the weak!!!

How the hell does forgiveness heal you? at night when you're in your bed, forgiveness does not make you better or sleep at night, you may forgive but one thing is for sure, you don't forget, how do you move on if something/someone still hurts you the moment you see them? and the person does not give a rats ass about how you feel

Judge me, I don't care but forgiveness does not change the past or the hurting! If you find out the formula to forgiveness please share it with some of us.
Yes I understand that no one is perfect! but you can not use that as an excuse for people to keep on wronging you, be your own person and forgive when YOU WANT to!!!

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UJ APK RAG PRESENTS POT N PONS

Pot n Pons is a Poitjieiekos-Making Competition with fun and games throughout the day, for a fun-filled Saturday come through to the RAG farm on APK Campus!!!

DATE: 15 September 2012
TIME: 09:00 - 16:00
ENTRANCE: R10 or Can of food
VENUE: RAG Farm

After Pot n Pons we head out to Afslaan to relax and dance the night away with Lulo Cafe and Franky.

Space Invaders (Ex's)

I'd like to think that we all have "space invaders" in our lives, they are called ex's, I hope you reading this has never been a space invader because this might just offend you.

HUSTLING THEIR WAY BACK IN

Its amazing how ex's make it their mission to try and get you back into their lives, the most shittiest part is when they come to you when you're very happy alone or in a new relationship, it amazes me how they know that you're happy cause that's the only time they come back into your life.

They come and try to convince you that they are a "changed person" and everybody deserves a second chance, and they know that you are in a relationship with someone else but that's not the end of the world, its just a challenge for them to win you back, to show you something that you're missing in your life.

Another thing that amazes me is when someone says "it is the new me" how could it possibly be the new you, if you are still in the same body, if you see me you still don't know how to say please and thank you.

The number one thing that people don't realise is that your ex is your ex for a reason.

They are an ex because you finally realised that is not what you want in a relationship, they are that person that does not respect you, they did not satisfy you in the way that you needed to be satisfied, they did not come into your heart and touch you like you needed to be touched, they just did not understand you completely or lets just say they did not get you.

These are some of the reasons that your ex is an EX, people never change, maybe for a week but they are still the same person.

Ex's do not go in a trans and change overnight, that person is still there, what makes them think that everything in the relationship would be different. Ex's are just plain disrespectful, they invade your space when you are at your most happiest with someone that you really like.



What to do about a space invader???

The problem starts when an ex sees that you are happy with somebody new, that is when they invade your space. First of all you need to be upfront and honest with the ex, if you don't need him in your life then why are you trying to spare his feelings by keeping quiet and not telling them exactly how you feel.

By keeping quiet about you not wanting your ex back you think that its better to stay quiet instead of hurting them but little do you know it does more harm than good, be upfront and tell them that there will be no second chance and you are happy where you are.

It is also important to let go of your past with your ex, in order for you to move on and be with someone that you really deserve and every time an ex comes and invades your space it does not only cause stress for you but it hurts the bond and relationship you have with this new person.

"Honesty is the best policy" just be honest about your new relationship to your ex and make sure that he understand that he needs to RESPECT that.

Now back to all the ex's out there I ask you this:

Are you a space invader???

It is  not a surprise that many of you would want to give your relationship another try but why do it when the person is genuinely happy with someone else that is not you? You need to realise that you snooze you lose.

Some of you have the "You only want them now that you cant have them" syndrome. When you realise that you may lose your ex you become selfish and worm yourself back into their lives, you don't care about anyone else but yourself not even of your ex's feelings and what they want.

You don't get to just wake up and decide that your ex needs to give you a chance and your relationship, STOP INVADING IN THEIR LIFE!!!

Just because you and your head believe that you have changed and things are different now, it still does not mean that you and your ex belong together now than you ever were when you were in the relationship.

What made your relationship not work the first time?? was it because you were two different people whose hearts did not connect or because you are the one that screwed up. you may have changed a few things about yourself but at the end of the day (you are still the same person) and so is your ex



Life is not a movie script

Think about all the movies that you have seen, boy meets girl, girls falls in love, they break up, girls falls in love with new guy that gives her everything that she has been looking for, ex comes back into girls life, she falls in love with ex all over again and what do you know (the EX is the hero)

Well I'm sorry to break it up for you but this is not going to happen in your situation, where you can just wiggle yourself back into your ex's life and try and snatch her away from someone that makes her truly happy


One thing that we need to understand is that if someone says they miss you, it does not necessarily mean that they want you back in their lives. You are not Ridge Forrester, so stop trying to play the lead role in this movie plot that you have with invading your ex's space.

When you become the space invading ex into your ex's life, you're not only bringing stress unto yourself but to your ex and their relationship, I did say earlier that it is being selfish, first think about what you are doing before deciding to cause chaos in someone Else's life. Put yourself in their shoes how would you feel if someone just came into your life when you are genuinely happy, it is emotionally draining!!

What if you want to be "just friends"



Many space invading ex's will invade an ex's happy relationship under the "wanting to become friends" quote, yet again it is being selfish, you cant be friends with all your ex's, learn to let go. But it also depends if you were friends with your ex before yall were dating and if you were than i know you would respect your "friends" personal space and feelings.

Instead of invading your ex's happy relationship space, go out there and find the same kind of happiness for yourself, this is the right time to do some soul searching and really sit down and think about what you really want and are you willing to be the cause that breaks up two happy people in a relationship for your own selfish reasons

Stop torturing the ex you claim to love so much and start working on you, if you feel bored log onto facebook or twitter and find a date.

ADVISE: Just because someone says they miss you it does not mean that they want you back.

Emotionally Drained

When love consumes hundreds of ounces of your capability to trust and give to the person that hurt you most but you try and move past it because that is how much you love them.

When a girl gets into a relationship, she invest all of her feelings and emotions into this one guy and it open her up to a possibility of getting hurt in the future but she gives herself completely to this one guy, something that men will never fully comprehend and even if they do understand they will never get t the point where they feel exactly the same way we feel.

Getting into a relationship is the best feeling ever knowing that someone loves you and you can call this person "my boyfriend/girlfriend" but nobody wants to get into a relationship where the ex is still lingering on, I hate it when a person gets into a relationship and does not leave their baggage behind, are boys that blind to realize that "baggage" meaning ex can put their relationship at risk with the girl that they love and are in a relationship with. No girl wants to feel like they are competing for their man it just defeats the whole purpose of being with that guy. Talking it out with your man is a good step and in that moment in that time he needs to   see who is important to him, he can not have options its either you or nothing, and if he says he does not care about his ex then why is he allowing her to still have a link to communicate with him, it is not on.

"Too much of anything can make you sink, even the good can be curse" So it just goes to show that something good can also be bad for you, but I believe that if you love someone, no matter the situation you will go through storms and sunshine with him, all in the name of LOVE but being there with him through all the bullshit does not give him the right to be an asshole or take advantage of your love and forgiveness.

When we move onto a new relationship after getting out of the one that has hurt us, we become emotionally drained and we fail to see the good guys because we believe that "every boy is the same" instead of giving him a chance to prove himself. All that repulsive-like attitude she’s embracing, she will just drive him away, however she is not completely at fault, for he will fail to see what drove her to be like that; hopefully he will get to see through her and help her refill her emotions vividly all over again.

Sometimes you need to give your heart a break and ALLOW someone to love you! forget about everyone and everything around you that is trying to keep and break you guys apart, look out for number one. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

The Taxi Chronicles

We have to be thankful for taxis because they take us to where we need to be but it becomes a problem when people think that they own shares in a taxi, sitting like they own the taxi or they get commision for having an attitude.

I am not saying I am better than anyone else that takes a taxi but at the end of the day, can we all have mutual respect for each other, if you know you getting off the corner why would you want to sit at the back and by the corner window and then inconvenience people t get off so that you can get off.

Then you get the ones that sit by the door and when the taxi stops they look away because they refuse to open the door for you, can they please move their asses to the back!!!

Not forgetting those whose asses are glued onto the seats, when you need to get off the taxi they will only move their legs and that time I think to myself but do these people see how big I am, do they expect me to jump over them without sitting or kicking them.

Yesterday there was no space in the taxi except for the back seat and there were three ladies sitting already and I really wanted to get home because it was late so I made my way to the back, they see me coming but none of them move an inch, I got there without greeting them or saying excuse me and I sat on their thighs, the bickering that went on because of what I just did, I took my money out of my bag to pay the driver and carried on like nothing happened, I can imagine how painful their thighs must have been but that will teach them for next time to shift up

Lets not forget about the "Taxi Queens" I would like to believe that we all know that if you are not willing to take money or count it DO NOT! I repeat DO NOT SIT IN THE FRONT.... its a written rule, but no we black people do not learn or listen, we love repeating our mistakes, now some of you love inconveniencing us.

Then you get the "Acting all rich but poor" types of people, yes we can see you've got a Blackberry and  a purse full of money, so what must happen now that you have flashed what you have, you are still broke like the rest of us.

I still don't get the forward people when someone is texting or chatting to their people and their eyes cant get off your phone, I remember my friend telling me that if someone is staring at your conversations, I should write "Friend this snake in my bag is moving too much and I am scared it is going to get out of the bag" and then see how the person is going to jump out of that taxi LOL!!!!

Please do not sit in a taxi like you own it, one day you will get someone that will tell you shit and you wont like it.